So my grandma passed away last week and no one thought it was necessary to tell me my brother or sister until a day after the funeral. (when my cousin sent me a passive aggressive message on facebook ) This lady was the only person we had a relationship with in that family. We were at her house every other weekend when were supposed to be at our dads. My sister stopped talking to our dad and made sure she saw grandma once a year when she came back to Michigan. They took away our chance to say goodbye, to get closure. I can't believe that people can be so selfish. All I know is that grandma would have been very disappointed in the way this was handled lace coverd with long sleeve items to wear of the wedding